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May 13th, 2016

Life Lessons From Carrie Bradshaw.


Lately I’ve found myself influenced by Carrie Bradshaw all over again.

Her alter-ego Sarah Jessica Parker turned 50 last month and this milestone drew me back to the heroine that shaped much of my 20’s and 30’s.

Sex and the City was a defining moment in television and I’ve watched every episode.

Multiple times.

I never, ever tire of it. Or of them.

Those characters and that city were a magical combination and Carrie was their anchor.

Or at least she was for me.

Beyond Manolo’s, flower brooches and Mac Books, here are the Top Six lessons that Carrie Bradshaw taught me about life.

1.Wear A Black Bra Under Everything.


Carrie always wore a black bra.

Under everything. Even in bed.

I love the hint of a chic black bra strap. It’s sexy without being obvious.

The key is treating your bra purchase like you would an accessory.

You want fine straps in satin or lace and perhaps a touch of cool hardware.

Try it…you shall be hooked.


CLICK TO BUY: L’Agent by Agent Provovateur Simona Bra, $37; Heidi Klum Intimates A Corps Perdu Lace Bra, $80.90; Stella McCartney Cameron Surfing Bra, $58Skin Organic Pima Bra, $77.20; Elle Macpherson Intimates Spree Lace Bra, $29Calvin Klein Underwear Icon Bare Bra, $53.10;

2. Life Is A Question.


The hook of every episode was Carrie typing the missive: I couldn’t help but wonder

And really, that is life.

In a cliche. Who can’t help but wonder?

Hindsight, perspective, call it what you want but at the end of the road, everything we do is a question, a decision, a ponder, an opportunity taken, an opportunity’s all a slogan waiting to be printed.

Carrie knew this and she kept a stocktake.

During the shows run, I started keeping journals that I filled with musings ‘a la Bradshaw.

What started as a writing tool turned into a grown-up diary and an emotional auditor.

Life is a bumper sticker and I’m a big believer in whacking them on your fridge.

Carrie Q’s.


“I couldn’t help but wonder: Can you make a mistake and miss your fate?

“When it comes to bags, men and cities, is it really what’s outside that counts?”

“As we speed along this endless road to the destination called “Who-We-Hope-to-Be,” I can’t help but whine, are we there yet?”

“Are we getting wiser, or just older?”

“I couldn’t help but wonder: Can you get to a future if your past is present?

“So, when it comes to finance and dating, I couldn’t help but wonder: Why do we keep investing?

“I wondered if ‘should’ was another disease plaguing women.”

“Why are we should-ing all over ourselves?”

“I started to wonder, In a city as cynical as New York, is it still possible to believe in love at first sight?

“I couldn’t help but wonder, No matter how far you travel or how much you run from it, can you ever really escape your past?

“I couldn’t help but wonder what it meant that I wanted to talk to my ex-boyfriend again?”

3. Cosmopolitans Are Fabulous.


The classic Cosmopolitan cocktail was almost the sixth lady on the show (New York was the fifth).

Everywhere Carrie went, a Cosmopolitan went too.

Show me a women who hasn’t ordered a Cosmopolitan in a bar because of this series.

Seriously, find me one.

I do enjoy the original blend but my all-time favourite cocktail (only equalled by a margarita) is a Dirty Cosmo.

The rock n’ roll cousin of the classic.

The recipe switches out vodka for tequila and once you’ve tried it this way…well, you’ll understand.

Make It Yourself.

45ml Patrón Silver Tequila

15ml Patron Citronge

15ml fresh lime juice

15ml Cranberry juice

15ml Agave syrup

Combine over ice in a cocktail shaker and shake for one minute. Strain into a martini glass. Cheers!


PS. There’s no better accompaniment to a fabulous cocktail than a fabulous dress. The one I’m wearing in the video is Luella Lurex Leaf Dress, $499 from We Are Kindred.

What You’ll Need.


CLICK TO BUY: Patrón Silver Tequila 750mL, $89.99; Patron Citronge 750ml, $59.99; Vinoteca Martini Glass (set of 6) from Zanui, $49.95; Avanti Art Deco Cocktail Shaker from David Jones, $32.95.

4. Dressing Up Is Always Right.


I am THE CHOIR on this one.

I’ve never met a woman who regretted over-dressing but plenty who wished they’d tried harder.

Or used their good things.

So, for the love of Carrie’s crazy-ass wardrobe: use, wear and enjoy your beautiful things.

Dress for adventure, the job you want, the place you dream of visiting.

Clothes can transform. Clothes are an escape.

You don’t need an excuse.

Harness their powers.

5. Love Should Be Big.


There will be many that don’t agree with me on this point but I’m one hundred percent with Carrie on the whole grand, big, swoony love thing.

I believe in love that looks like this.


Feels like this.


Hurts like this.


And sounds exactly like this.

Carrie said“When it comes to relationships, maybe we’re all in glass houses, and shouldn’t throw stones. Because you can never really know. Some people are settling down, some are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies…”

You must strive for butterflies.

They are completely worth it.

6. Put A Name On It.


Like you don’t want one.

CLICK TO BUY: Etsy Custom Name18K Gold Plated Necklace, $48.39; My Name Necklace Personalised Necklace, from $39; Bevilles Name Necklace, from $29.99.



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